Update the spark3 yarn shuffler jar file
The previous attempt to include the spark3 yarn shuffler jar had an error, in that it used an incorrect file.
This version copies the jar file from a binary distribution of spark3 that we build in the production-images repository.
We also update the location of the jar file so that it can be found in /usr/lib/spark3/yarn which is a more standard location.
Bug: T332765